Daine Grey, a 22-year-old transgender student at the City College of San Francisco, took his life on July 2.
Two weeks later, after finding out his body had not been claimed by his estranged parents, Grey’s friends and fellow members of CCSF’s LGBTQ community stepped in to raise funds to pay for his funeral.
According to a GoFundMe page set up following his death, Grey’s parents, who had disowned him, have refused to organize or pay for a funeral.
“On July 2, 2018, Our Queer Community lost one of their bright stars, Daine Grey,” Lady Katerina, manager of the school’s Queer Resource Center, wrote on a GoFundMe page. “Daine was 22 years of age, trans and queer. As of of July 16th his parents, who have disowned him, have been notified have yet to claim the body. Tomorrow is day 10 of parents not responding to SF Coroner and as a community we can claim the body. Lady Katerina is taking point and will claim the body on behalf of Daine’s community and friends. We need help in providing Final Dignity Rites for Daine. As you know funeral expenses are expensive especially when someone had nothing. Please help share the love and give Daine his Dignity.
As of Saturday afternoon, $25,495 had been raised, surpassing the $17,000 goal.
NBC News reports:
The past few months had been rough for Grey, according to Lady Katerina and others who knew Grey. CCSF’s Queer Resource Center, where he spent much of his time during the school year, was closed for the summer. He had a summer job on Treasure Island in the San Francisco Bay, but those who knew him said he was feeling down.
Grey had only just come out publicly as transgender last September, and he expressed worry in a public Facebook post that he would not be accepted.
“I’m transgender … This means I identify as a gender different from the sex I was assigned at birth,” he wrote. “Hope this doesn’t lose me too many friends and family.”
After coming out as transgender, Grey told friends at CCSF that his family had disowned him, according to Lady Katerina.
NBC News adds:
NBC News contacted Grey’s parents, Stephanie and Peter Haught, who are separated from each other and estranged. Stephanie Haught said she hadn’t talked to her son since he was 16 and only found out he was transgender through Facebook days before he died. She claimed Grey’s father told her he would claim their son’s body. Peter Haught declined to provide NBC News with an on-the-record comment.
Following a call from NBC News, Stephanie Haught contacted Lady Katerina, and the two are now working together to plan a funeral service for Grey at the Chapel of the Chimes in Oakland, California.